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There is No "Me" in "We"


My husband seems to listen to everything. He catches every word I say, even when I am being a smarty pants and really do not want him to hear. Yesterday, we were in the kitchen discussing (he was really discussing I was kinda of just in the room) about moving my brand new KitchenAide off of the counter and putting it on the bakers rack. I really am not feeling it. I want to see my KitchenAide on a daily basis. I waited to long to get it. I responded after he gave me all of his points as to why it should move, " We'll I do not want to move my KitchenAide. I will move the other stuff that I have soon, to make more room." He stood there and just looked at me. He made this funny look on his face and then said," Move your stuff? I thought it was our stuff?" He said it like he was offended or something. I immediately became confused. Since when did he care about the stuff in the kitchen, that is my domain. He mainly goes in there to get something to drink and walks back out the room. I recovered quickly and stated," I mean our stuff." He seemed to accept my response and did what he always does and got something to drink and walked off to go watch TV in another room.


Ever since we got married, it has become we this, we that. Now do not get me wrong, I do enjoy the we, but since when did it matter. We lived together for years before we got married, so I always thought it was our stuff. So if I did not change my thought process, it had to be him. Now that we are married I think he feels more responsibility for me and our things. It is kinda cute. So I need now going to enroll myself in "We-Camp" so that I can no longer offend my husband. I have created a new motto for myself. My new motto is that "There is no me, in we." Not to say I will not still be Dana, just to say that I will be more conscious of the team aspect of my marriage. Glad I learned this lesson early.

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