Sweeping Through Life

This  past weekend my husband and I attend our church's couples retreat. Even though he is not a member there (yet) when he has gone to church he always attended there. I must say that I really enjoyed the retreat and the time that we had together alone. We were are able to connect with each over through conversations with other couple of all different years as well reconnect with each other. It was nice to hear that other couples have struggles and obtain feedback on what worked for them and may some of it will work for us. There are 3 things that I learned from this weekend, listen, pray and love. Listen. I think that I have always listen to my husband, but I do not think that I have listen to the point that I have processed what I was hearing to respond appropriately. The couples there who has 20, 30 one that had 50 all said that you have to learn to listen to your spouse and that listening is just not hearing what they said but it also includes knowing their body language ...

Some days are like that

Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.   ~Barnett R. Brickner ( quote)

I have been watching the show, Sister Wives for the past year and recently saw a show on polygamy on Our America with Lisa Ling. I really found these shows interesting and liked hearing their lives, since it is so different than mine. In watching the shows, I can only think...there is no way that I could live that lifestyle. I am not condemning how they chose to live their lives, but I can not see myself sharing my husband knowingly with another woman or two or three. I was amazed, from what I saw, how loving the these relationships were between each of the wives with the husband and with each other. The honest portrayal of these relationships, showing all the different aspects including the ups and downs, is appreciated.  I guess that whatever type of relationship that you are in, they have their ups and downs and they are different from one another. I know for myself, that my marriage is only for myself and my husband and no one else. Could you be in a polygamist marriage? What...

Friday Just another day at work. Since the hubby has been off since his recent surgery, it was nice to have him home on a Friday night. We ended up ordering Chinese food and watching a couple of movies on HBO. It was a nice way to end the week. Saturday Did some house work. In the evening we went to a wedding reception. The couple Alan and Iyanna, had a small ceremony at a local chapel and then had a small reception at their home. It was a quaint affair with lots of friends, food and drink. The food served was good and so was the cake. I always look forward to wedding cake. We were not able to stay long since, the hubby started to not feel well when the pain meds began to wear off. Sunday Went to church. My friend Bev decided to join me at my church this week. It was a nice service. Came home and cooked dinner. I really wanted some fried chicken. I must say, that I do not like frying chicken since I feel like every time I fry chicken it is not completely done. Since the hubby...

Do you think that celebrities marriages have more pressure than everyday marriages? I only ask this question, due the recent breakup of (JLo) of JLo and Marc Anthony and (J and K) the ended engagement of Kat Von D and Jessie James.  These couples both seemed to be happy together, but something went wrong to where they have ended their relationship.  Maybe it is because they are in the public eye and every aspect of their relationship is scrutinize, unlike in everyday marriages the only scrutiny you may have is from family and friends, if that. Are expectations higher for celebrity relationships? Are the stakes higher for celebrity marriages? I think that the only difference in celebrity relationships is that there  is more at stake, such as more money and public image. I do not think that their relationships are any different from everyday marriages. They love like we do. They hurt like we do. They just have to do all of it in front of a camera. I am not a c...

Chains do not hold a marriage together.  It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years.   ~Simone Signoret (quote)

I know that I have talked about this before, but I was there a line of fine print that I missed when I applied for my marriage license that stated that " Once married that after the 2 year anniversary that you must have a baby." Did anyone have that listed on their marriage license application? I must have skimmed over it. It is not bad enough that people that I do not normally share my personal life with are asking me, but now there are people asking my husband at his place of employment and giving him advice. Wow. I just wanted to share some of the advice that he was given..... " You should have sex everyday." "Tell her to lay on her side for about 20 minutes before moving." When my husband came and told me this, I first asked, "What and the hell are saying to people at work?". He said nothing and that people just assumed that we were trying to have a family since we have hit the 2 year mark in our marriage and offered their experiences and...

In reading a post from Charli from Man,Wife and Dog , about an email that she received about her postings being all about her marriage being happy all of the time and not talking about the bad stuff.  Click here and here to view the posting and response. In reading her post and her lovely response back to the writer, I just wanted to shout," I am not June Cleaver." I think that most bloggers, well should I say that I read, do talk the ups and downs in their marriages, their likes and dislikes and a sprinkle of themselves in between. I think that most of us use this a forum to express ourselves and at times ask for a little help in our everyday lives and sometimes in our marriages.  pic  Times have changed, some of us are able to be June Cleaver and some of us are not. I think that each day,  each minute and week, we are finding our way through our marriages. We all try to do what is best for us and our marriage, depending on where we  are in life, where w...